So when I had the chance to check out this book by Anastasia Verg about gaining confidence in yourself, I was pretty intrigued. The book is called SELF CONFIDENCE: How to Overcome Shyness, Worry and Boost Your Self-Esteem and it goes through 5 different chapters about ways to help improve confidence. The chapters are:
1. How to Overcome Shyness by Changing your Appearance.
2. How to be Confident by Using Positive Affirmations.
3. How to Overcome Insecurity Once and For All.
4. How to Stop Worrying Using the Power of Positive Thinking.
5. How to Improve Low Self-Esteem and Have Healthy Relationships.
I have to say, the book was hard to get into for me. I think that is because the first chapter was on changing your appearance. And although there is a definite benefit to maybe getting a haircut or color change, or maybe painting your nails to feel refreshed, I found several of the tips in this chapter to be borderline offensive.
It wasn't so much the tips themselves, but the reasons behind them and the accompanying explanations that bothered me. The things like suggesting that women should polish their nails once in a while and wear contacts instead of glasses, how you shouldn't look very pale and you should try to make your skin a little brown... these things struck me as not only odd, but a little insulting. Google will provide me with hundreds of people in all skin tones that I would consider beautiful. I have seen very dark people and very pale people who are equally stunning to me. So some of these suggestions did bother me and it made it hard to take the book seriously.
After the first chapter, I did find that I liked it better. Even so, I do think that the ideas provided, though good ones, were kind of generalized and a bit vague.
I did like the idea of stating to yourself some kind words of affirmation in difficult situations. For example, if I am having a rough day with the kids and I want to yell and scold my child, I believe it would be helpful to stop and say to myself "I am patient, I am loving. I take thought in my reactions and do not respond hastily to anger." Even if those things are not true, I do believe that they will become true if I remind myself of these things.
My overall thoughts were that the book needs a little more on how to implement the ideas in every day life, exercises perhaps... and perhaps suggest ways on enhancing a person's natural beauty as a way of gaining confidence through accepting ourselves. But it is an inexpensive book and a quick read. It may help people with self-esteem issues, so it might be worth looking into.
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